incorporate (the ideas or attitudes of others, esp. parents, into one’s own personality) v.t.: introject
Michael Friedrich . . . believes the origin for [people’s] phobia[s] probably lies in their experience of how anxiety was dealt with by their parents when they were very young. . . . “If within a family there is a culture of saying, even in distressing situations, ‘I can cope with this,’ then the child will introject that feeling. Conversely, if the parents fail to give this impression, the child will absorb the idea that . . . stressful or difficult situations can’t be dealt with.” (Penny Hancock, Health: “Living with Fear,” Independent [London], 3/5/2003.)
